We all want to keep our relationships in good standing; no matter if it’s a Friendship or Romantic Love, and we can if we put in the Time and Energy.
So many couples start off Strong and Happy, but as we get older, some folks drift apart and are plagued by Loneliness which is like an early death, depression and even some form of dementia. Side note: you can be in a bad relationship and feel even lonelier than if you were alone. That to me, is the worst form of loneliness.
I often wonder what it’s like to get older, as I feel so sharp and vibrant and as a hopeless Romantic, I also wonder how will my outlook on love shift as I age? Right now I fall in love hard and fast, but with age comes maturity, so it only make sense that the whole “falling in love” process changes with progression.
Falling in love I think, is something that people experience differently. There’s a small part of me that still wants to get old and still be able to fall hard and fast! I think the falling fast part is what makes love so exciting in the first place!
Here are 10 different scenarios on how falling in love changes as you get older:
THIS PERSON BECAME JADED:
My love today is tainted with the experience of what Unrequited, Jaded, Jilted and Deceitful
Love really mean.
THIS PERSON STILL GETS BUTTERFLIES, BUT NOT ORGASMS:
I’m in my mid 30s and I still get butterflies. The sex is good but not as often and not as exciting, but I almost never have multiple orgasms anymore either; mostly because I’m so tired.
WHEREAS, IT TAKES A LOT FOR THIS PERSON TO GET BUTTERFLIES:
I think as I get older it takes more for me to feel butterflies. A pretty face and nice personality aren’t enough.
THIS PERSON DOESN’T THINK HE’LL FALL AS HARD AS HE DID WHEN HE WAS YOUNGER:
I think after my wife cheated on me, I was so in love with her even at like… 28, or however old I was… I don’t think I’ll ever get those feelings again. It’ll probably just be a maturing love, something to develop over time rather than have that same, immediate, super strong feeling for years.
THIS PERSON GOT MORE HOPEFUL WITH AGE:
I just wear rose-colored glasses now.
THIS PERSON STILL GETS “HEART FLUTTERS”:
I don’t think butterflies equal love, but I’m 30 and my boyfriend still says or does things that make my heart flutter. Will it ever be as passionate, frankly; slightly insane as it was when I was 18? I sincerely doubt it. Which is probably a good thing.
THIS PERSON SAYS AS YOU AGE, YOU FALL IN LOVE LESS EASILY:
When you’re young, you know less of what you really want in a relationship and you pay less attention to the negatives in your partner. When you’re older, you’re more aware of what you want (or don’t want) and you’re more cautious. You take things slower. I wouldn’t call it “jaded” and I wouldn’t say it’s negative at all. You just don’t fall as easy for someone. Add prior divorces and kids to the mix? You can’t afford to fall hard and stupid anymore.
THIS PERSON THINKS “PEOPLE GET HARDER TO LOVE”:
I just think people get harder to love as they age, mostly because they become so rigid.
THIS PERSON SAYS LOVE BECOMES A SLOW BURN:
The first three times I fell in love, it was almost instantaneous, like the proverbial arrow to the heart. The most recent time, it has been slow and delicate. It’s odd and makes me second guess myself.
THIS PERSON SAYS WHEN IT COMES TO LOVE, “GETTING OLDER IS GREAT”:
You still fall in love as you get older. In my experience it’s gotten a lot easier. I think older people just aren’t as visible because younger people really suffer through it. Coping skills and having been there really makes strong emotions easier to deal with. You also learn what it means to love someone and be loved. You can pick out abusers more easily and avoid them. You know what it takes to make someone feel loved. You know what love should be like so you can actually make it work. Getting older is great!
In a good relationship, Love, Respect and Honesty are the most important things; However; sometimes we tend to focus on the age differences between people, but we forget that age is just a number! As long as there is True Love and Commitment, nothing else matters! Period!
Here’s to wishing you Lots of Love! The human Body needs Love! Cheers!
I wish you Health, Wealth and Happiness!
Dr. Wu.
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Sherwood (Woody) Swartz AP,MMQ
AKA Dr. Wu Dhi
